Wedding

Unless the Lord builds the house, its builders will have toiled in vain

 

Congratulations… on your decision to get married.  Whether you’re to be married in Canongate Kirk or elsewhere, there are certain things you will need to know as you begin to make your plans and preparations for the big day.

By law you are required to give Notice of Marriage to the local Registrar between 3 months and 3 weeks before the date of your wedding.  You might also be required to supply such documents as birth or death certificates, or divorce papers.  For Canongate the appropriate Registrar’s office is at 59-63 George IV Bridge,  Edinburgh, Tel: 0131 529 2600.  You will need to contact them direct to make an appointment to lodge the forms. All being well the Registrar will issue a Marriage Schedule shortly before the wedding.  It should be collected by the bride or groom and brought to me as soon as possible.  This is the document that we will sign on the day, and without it the marriage cannot go ahead.  It’s as important as that!  After the ceremony the Schedule must be returned to the Registrar within 3 days and a Marriage Certificate will be issued in due course.  The fee for this process is currently £60.50.

Most couples like to arrange a rehearsal, usually a day or two before the wedding.  This is a good opportunity to bring along the Marriage Schedule, and also the other fees required for a Church wedding.  These are currently £60 for the organist, £20 for the church officer and a donation of not less than £170 to the church.  Ideally this should all be combined in one cheque made payable to Canongate Kirk. If you are a taxpayer and kindly sign the enclosed declaration, we can claim Gift Aid on this at no further cost to you. Also, it is customary to leave flowers in place for the following Sunday service. Prior access for florists should be arranged through the Kirk office. Parking in the Kirkyard should be restricted to official cars, and to vehicles transporting elderly or disabled guests.

It is essential that we meet up to discuss such details as the music to which you will come in and go out, and the hymns and readings to be incorporated into the service.  You might like to consider the suggestions on the back of this leaflet and/or contact our organist, Richard Neville-Towle, through the kirk office on 0131 556 3515 or e-mail canongatekirk@btinternet.com. Please let me see the final proof of the Order of Service before it goes to print. You’d be amazed at the number of errors that get past the spell-checker!

You might like to be aware of the vows that are exchanged at a traditional Church of Scotland wedding:

I, A…now take you, B…, to be my wife/husband.  In the presence of God and before these witnesses I promise to be a loving, faithful and loyal husband/wife to you, so long as we both shall live.

I will prompt you phrase by phrase – you don’t need to learn the words by heart!  But think about them, for they sum up the deep commitment you will make to each other on your wedding day.

As time goes on you will need to make arrangements for flowers and photographs etc.  Please note that photographs are only permitted before and after the ceremony, and during the signing of the register. The day you get married should be the most important day of your life, and the ceremony is more important than the reception!  If you have any requests or questions – and soon you will have lists of them – don’t hesitate to get in touch with me at the address below.  In the meantime you would be warmly welcome at our 10am Family Service or 11-15am Parish Worship any Sunday.

The Reverend Neil Gardner:

Manse of Canongate,

EdinburghEH8 8BR.

Tel 0131 556 3515.                               email: nng22@btinternet.com

 


The Church Hymnary (Fourth Edition):

 

63           All people that on earth do dwell

124         Praise to the Lord

127         O worship the King

132         Immortal, invisible, God only wise

147         All creatures of our God and King

153         Great is thy faithfulness

159         Lord, for the years

160         Praise, my soul, the King of heaven

166         Lord of all hopefulness

167         Guide me, O thou great Jehovah

181         For the beauty of the earth

182         Now thank we all our God

189         Be still, for the presence of the Lord

200         Christ is made the sure foundation

212         Morning has broken

213         Every new morning

214         New every morning is the love

462         The King of love my shepherd is

519         Love Divine, all loves excelling

528         Make me a channel of your peace

555         Amazing grace

562         Through the love of God our Saviour

598         Come Holy Ghost, our hearts inspire

696         We come, dear Lord, to celebrate

697         Let’s praise the Creator

698         The grace of life is theirs

699         God beyond glory

700         As man and woman we were made

 

Suggested  Scripture Readings

St John2: 1-11

I Corinthians 13

Ephesians 3: 14-21

Colossians 3: 12-17

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